Friday, June 10, 2022

Life Goes On

I have often said it does not matter to me if someone does not like Affairs Valentino. They can hate it, use it as kindling, or toilet paper for all I care. They have that perfect right. But what people can not do is set out to destroy and torture me for writing the book. And I think by now I have explained sufficiently what I mean by “their” destroying/destruction ...calling us names, depicting us as fraudulent criminals and thieves while repeatedly broadcasting how we are people we certainly are not.

Renato and I are honest to a fault perhaps and maybe that makes us boring... but we do not lie or commit crimes and have no reason to...and we are not hateful folks at all.

I am not comfortable talking about or posting about Mr. Terhune. I am uncomfortable even mentioning him let alone posting analyses about him. Why? Because I hope to give him the most minimal amount of attention for his awful behavior. But it is hard to avoid since he has made himself the center of attention... and there is a lot to be said... he is like a spoilt brat throwing a tantrum in the middle of church or the Queen's jubilee. I base my judgment on the fact I was raised knowing how to behave and my children were raised the same way. This is what I know as being normal. But somewhere Mr. Terhune missed the lesson in, “do not act like the center of the universe with your obnoxious tantrums”.

It is shocking anyone shows up to worship Terhune as he positions himself a few feet from Rudolph Valentino's final resting place. I am so appalled people think it is fine to let him have that pulpit while he goes the extra miles... with Bret in hand... and behind-the-scenes... to tell the world we are people we are not. I remember one year watching his service as he read the 23rd Psalm while I was reading his latest hit post attacking us on the blog he runs under the title of the book he loves to hate. It was pretty hard to take.

It is a very disappointing element of the Valentino world that year after year he gets that position. Imagine a new face at the crypt, someone who does not run bully blogs against the author of a book they did not like. Someone at the helm there who does not name call, mock....someone who does not reek of David Bret... someone who represents the sanctity of that tomb.

Renato and I have taken these two men's defamation since 2011 and I was subjected to it some years prior to that. Before Affairs Valentino was even finished, before it was ever published anywhere, they had ruined me, the book and all hope to recover my reputation. They slaughtered me online. After they did this, they have since mocked how Affairs Valentino did not have a huge publisher. I always said it is as if someone shoots you in the legs and then laughs at you for not being able to dance.

They did not have to like our work... but they can respect the serious work that went into it. And in the days before the internet, doing what they do to us would surely land them in jail; i.e. you do not publish someone's fake obituary, you do not post that they have criminal records, drug histories and warrants out on them when that is all false, you do not write about their deaths, you do not post years of salacious commentary about their sexual lives and you do not recruit people to spy and spread the ugly false propaganda. I think at one point these amoral tactics to ruin someone would have been punishable criminal acts.

We have lived our lives around their endless and extremely high levels of gaslighting and abuse. This said we are happy people who refuse to allow them to rob us of a moment of our days and we are grateful that at our ages we have a lot of energy and each other. So our love for life goes on. I hope it is the same for all of you.  

19 comments:

  1. Do not be sorry that you wrote Affairs Valentino, the reality of Rudy is far more interesting than the Hollywood myth. I am glad to find the true Valentino. But what I found more interesting is how Natasha and Rudy felt about each other and how she was a modern woman. She made Valentino who he was, as for Terhune and Bret , there will be a reckoning. People will discover you and Renato's wonderful books.

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    1. Oh, thank you 1:52! I would not say I am sorry I wrote Affairs Valentino. It was a great gift and I got to know so many incredible people and travel and meet Renato. It is the book that changed my life. I always knew it would generate discussions but had no idea that it would be so bad. It is still, "the book they do not want you to read" and this after all these years.

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    2. Yes, you have met incredible people and you have interviewed interesting people before they passed on. Therefore Valentino's true story has been told, and will be told for generations. I only wished that you and Renato were not treated that way.

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    3. I was very fortunate to have recorded the stories of some of the last people to be able to tell some first hand accounts.

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  2. Frankly, I am just interested in Mr. and Mrs. Floris' new discoveries, podcasts, and books about Valentino. Tracy Terhune interests me NOT AT ALL. His pretentious bloviating about his bric a brac is a turn off for me.

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  3. Yes.. Terhune's bric a brac relics are a poor substitute for human connection and decency.

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  4. It really breaks my heart and troubles my soul that such injustice has been perpetrated against you and Renato. I’m SO SICK of horrible, disgusting people committing crimes and trying to murder innocents and not a damn thing gets done about it. In your case, they try to attack you and murder your professional name. I’m just so sick and tired of evil going on and on and nothing stops it. God bless you both and God bless your work and may truth and justice find it’s way into your lives. May the truth prevail and may God’s light shine on you! Keep doing what you are doing.

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    1. Thank-you. It is an injustice which at times has only made us work harder. Your message is inspiring. 🌹🌹🌹

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  5. The fact that Terhune will not allow anyone else to have the role of MC at the annual Memorial Service is very telling. I honestly don't think he has much of anything going in life. As Evelyn says, she has Renato as well as a full personal and professional life. Terhune clings to Valentino because he thinks it gives him some sense of identity and importance. It's pathetic that this now well past middle-aged man is still obviously not comfortable with himself or aware of the inherent value of those around him. Instead, he thinks that things that he has accumulated will soothe his desires.
    What has Terhune actually contributed to the so-called "Greater VSC"? Certainly no substantial research into Rudy's life or legacy. His only claim to fame seems to be showing off his relic wares accumulated by hook or by crook...often taking advantage of unsuspecting people along the way to get what he wanted.
    In years to come, once Terhune's collection is broke up and scattered, I wonder what he will be remembered for? The Floris' legacy is a fine and substantial collection of works that have helped to keep the importance of Valentino and his times alive for future generations to come.

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  6. Yes, that "greater Valentino community"? What a myth that is.

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  7. You're Looking Swell DollyJune 10, 2022 at 4:36 AM

    A fine insight and comment, Boo Berry! Also wonder..... what will David Bret be remembered for? Pornographer of the Stars? Dust in the wind, if you ask me.

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    1. The same with Terhune, one day he shall reap for the way he abused the Floris.

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  8. Gravity’s RainbowJune 10, 2022 at 4:55 AM

    Agree very much with Boo Berry’s comments. I don’t recall EVER having heard Terhune deliver intelligent or perceptive comments about Valentino. It’s quite something really, given his number of turns at the crypt lectern and the time and money he has invested in his Valentino fixation. Like the other photo collectors who position themselves as leaders, he has convinced himself that purchasing a photo means he composed and photographed it.

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  9. An acquaintance of mine attended one of Tracy Ryan Terhune's Crypt Fest Memorials several years ago. What they shared with me was that Terhune seemed extremely controlling of the action behind the scenes and did not come across as a very pleasant person when he wasn't at the podium (barking at one participant who asked a question he did not deem worthy). I would imagine that he is very tightly wound on the day of the Fest each year as he thinks he is the 'owner' of the event.
    Doesn't sound like any of us are missing anything except to witness Terhune's short fuse directed at mere mortals.

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    1. I have never been to one of the crypt events. We have been in Los Angeles a few years in August because that is when all of Italy goes on vacation but we never went. I am not sure what Mr. Terhune would do if we walked in but I would not go because of what he does to us. I could not stomach his even being there at all.

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  10. Who was incharge of the memorial before TRT? Who is in charge of the event now ?

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